What is change?  The Merriam dictionary defines change as:

Entry Word: change
Function: noun
Text: the act, process, or result of making different <the positive change in our students' attitude toward people who are somehow different was a long and gradual process>
Synonyms alteration, difference, modification, redoing, refashioning, remaking, remodeling, revamping, revise, revision, reworking, variation
Related Words amendment, correction, rectification; conversion, deformation, distortion, metamorphosis, mutation, transfiguration, transformation; fluctuation, oscillation, shift; displacement, replacement, substitution; adjustment, modulation,

          So we see from the Merriam dictionary change is a transformation.  A person goes from one state of rest or existence to another state of rest or existence.  Presumably if one has arms, legs, eyes, ears all the rudiments for action one can make a change.  But actually change does not involve the arms, legs, eyes or ears change involves the mind.  After a change has taken place, these appendices may be engaged but they have little to do with an actual change in behavior or thought pattern.  Change involves developing a specific attitude, a specific way of talking, a specific way of walking and a specific way of viewing the world around you.  Change involves seeing yourself at the helm, in command (self visualization), telling yourself and others what you will and will not do.  Change involves concentration, determination and will power.  Change involves engaging the psyche the real you.  For change to take place one must get in touch with the person that is deep within; the person we all call the ‘real you.”   Modifications are made internally then change is seen by the world.  Although the Merriam dictionary defines change it does not tell us how to change.  The dictionary does not tell us how to get from point A to point B successful.  What do we have to do to change a facet of our lives? How is change accomplished?

      In order to make a change you need tools.  You need a set of unique tools that when applied to your psyche you will not only change your thought pattern but you will remain motivated to change regardless of what is occurring around you.  The tools you need to make a change to your psyche are not physical tools they are metaphysical tools.  This point should be made clear it is the essence of change.  Change must take place in the mind before that change can take place in reality.  The tools you use to enforce a change in your life are those tools developed during maturation, adversity and contentment.  Consequently, if you did not develop the necessary tools during these periods you will be deficient when it comes to making changes in your life.  You may have to make adjustments in your life to implant the metaphysical tools you need so that you can make the required changes that you believe you need to make as you progress through life.  Most assuredly these tools can be implanted through reading and rehearsing.  Repetition is vital when seeking to change resistant behaviors, behaviors that have plagued you for a long time.  Just because you are deficient of certain metaphysical tools and did not develop these tools during maturation learning is still possible it just requires a desire supported by an indomitable will.  The world will tell you that there is no indomitable will.  You must resign yourself to whatever comes your way.  Eat, smoke drink and be happy.  How can you possibly make a difference?  You are to finish your days filled with rage thinking how could life be so unfair?  If you look at the lives of Cardinal Mundelein and Nelson Mandela and others men and women cut from the same cloth, you will see indomitable wills are possible even in ordinary circumstances.  Men and women become extraordinary by just saying no and digging in for the backlash. 

     Imagine you are over weight.  You have decided to lose weight.  You are sitting at the lunch table and your girlfriend is eating a Twinkie and she offers you one.  What do you do?  What tool do you use to remain on course to do what you said you were going to do regardless of what is occurring around you?  One of the tools you may use in this situation is determination (developed during adversity). You may call upon your determination to over come your desire for that Twinkie.  The determination will make you recall how you hate going to the dress store not finding anything to wear or how bad you feel when you husband takes you out to dinner and you are afraid to see a baked potato.  Another tool you may call upon is ostracism.  You may decide to find another best girlfriend, one who has your best interest in heart; a best girlfriend that would never offer you a Twinkie to eat.  

     Now that we know a substantial part of change involve non physical tools we need to identify these tools so that they can be developed and used when we seek to change.  So our problem now turns into the problem of how do we identify and develop these non physical tools and how can we keep them sharpen for use at all times? 

Seven of the tools we speak of are described in Chapter 13, Preventing Violence Against Women, in Volume Two Part Two, Murder in The Family, of the series Do This In Remembrance of Me. 

Excerpt from Murder In The Family and Trial of The Mind, ©2008 Touched By The Light Publishing. All Rights Reserved. Touched By The Light, Inc., P.O. Box 4044, Southfield, Michigan 48037

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